A compelling, relatable and powerfully moving memoir of people-pleasing, family and what it means to love and be loved, from radio presenter and podcaster Linda Marigliano.

Linda Marigliano has built a career out of performing for other people. In her day-job as an on-air presenter or in her family home, she contorted herself into ‘the cool girl’ or ‘the good girl’, and struggled to ever truly switch off.

As she repeatedly over-committed and sought approval in all its guises, she started to ask herself: Why am I like this? Combing through her complex relationship with her mother, the sense of duty within her extended Italian and Chinese-Malaysian families, and the twisting turns of both her career path and her love life, she noticed a pattern emerging.

Her love language had warped into acts of service that pleased everyone but herself, without boundaries or exceptions. And she’d lost the ability to translate the vocabulary of love being spoken all around her.