Bestselling author and Senior Pastor of The Lighthouse Church and Ministries shares how to strengthen your relationships—with family, partners, friends, and others—and find deeper satisfaction by learning to love better.

Humans are meant to love and be loved, but so often we fall short at loving well. We take others for granted. We make assumptions. We forget to show our affection. We grow lazy.

We so often fail in our relationships with our families, our partners, our friends, and fellow humans because we are lazy in our love for one another, says Keion Henderson, pastor of the mega-church Lighthouse Church in Houston. Lazy love prevents us from experiencing the deep, soulful fulfillment we long to know. It keeps us from being known and enjoyed by those around us. And it stops us from stepping out to give who we are without expecting anything in return.

In his new book Lazy Love, Henderson unpacks the four kinds of love mentioned in the Bible—eros, or attraction; phileo, or friendship; storge, or familial; and agape, or spiritual love—and shows listeners how each shapes our relationships and our lives. He also encourages listeners to uncover the unhealthy practices that often lead to damaged or broken relationships and helps listener break free of the patterns that keep us from loving well.